Make 2005 your year to change history!  In this section of my website I will provide you with 365 daily tips to a Year of submissve fullfillment toward serving your Dominant Wife/Mistress. 

To begin to serve a Dominant Woman it is essential that you change your personal history today. 

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January, 2005 

Saturday, January 1 - Make the commitment to serve the Woman in your life.  Respect Her, Obey Her, surrender yourself to Her, give Her the gift of your submission.  Commit to changing how you view her.  She is the First and Superior Sex and you should commit to serving Her as your Dominant.  Redefine how you relate to Her, speak to Her, and make love to Her.  Remember to be lovingly vocal and praise Her often.   

Sunday, January 2 -  Consider how you can grow in your role as a a submissive male to your Wife and how to grow in your relationship to serve Her.  What is Her vision for your marriage?  If you do not know go to Her and ask.  What changes do you need to make in your life to meet Her needs?  What attitudes of your heart need to be change?  Take the time to reflect on what serving a Dominant Woman means to you.  Tell Her you wish to surrender and be Her submissive.  Don't hurry through this.  Take your time.  Begin to journal your thoughts on a computer or in a notebook and be expressive as you write your deepest thoughts.  Title this journal, "How I Can Be of Sevice to My Queen."  Carry a notepad to periodically jot down ideas that can be added to your journal.  Write out action oriented practical ways to act on to be of service to your Mistress.  Listen carefully to those things she desires and follow through on Her directions.  Choose to OBEY Her. 

Monday, January 3 -  Go to your Journal and give time to reflect on and write towards what you want to give Her from your heart.  Plan some romantic themes to mention to her for an upcoming weekend that you would like to do with Her.  Touch her tenderly and embrace Her and offer a gentle kiss, learn to cook her favorite meal and server Her by candlelight, offer to give a full body massage, take a moonlit walk and express your submissive feelings, a long slow dance to Her favorite song as a prelude to a romantic evening, a shared shower, date night out or in, etc..

Tuesday, January 4 -  Your Dominant Wife wants you to tell her how much you need Her and depend on Her to give you structure in your life.  Tell Her several times a day, things like, "I love you," "I enjoy your company," "I need you," "You make me feel secure," " I want to serve you," How can I be of most help to you," etc.  Reflect on what does your Dominant needs to hear from you?  What things can you say or do to feed your submissive emotional hunger for Her and to be of service to Her? 

Wednesday, January 5 - Reflect on ways to KEEP THE FIRE BURNING.  Next time you see your Dominant Wife give her a soft kiss.  Tell her how much you respect and cherish her.  Think of ways to change your lovemaking to Worship at her breasts.  'My love for you is like a sachet of myrrh resting between your abundant and ample breasts.'

Thursday, January 6 - This is a good time of year to add small "gift giving" ideas to a section of your Journal for your Dominant Wife.  Think birthday, anniversary and Valentines Day is just around the corner.  Write down all Her sizes and favorite colors, and other things that make Her unique to you.  Begin to jot down gift ideas and items that she mentions liking/wanting/needing.  A new purse for her perhaps to match a pair of Her shoes. 

Friday, January 7 -  Give thought to doing things regularly together.  It can be as simple as sharing time at the dinner table or more challenging activities like going shopping together or taking a couple of classes together.  You don't have to hurry with this, just give it some thought as to how you can spend time together regularly.  Perhaps since the weekend is here, offer to allow Her to unwind and relax for half an hour while you run a bath of hot water, add several tablespoons of relaxing bath oil and light candles to create 'ambience.'  Offer Her a glass of wine or make some hot tea.  Help hang up Her clothes and give Her time to relax in the bath.  Arrange some light foods for Her dinner or offer to take Her a favorite restaurant. 

Saturday, January 8 -  Many Dominant Women are living with little sexual fullfillment.  This should be of great a concern for you.  If sexual satisfaction is minimal or absent the relationship will suffer.  If your Wife is ovulating, do you know Her monthly cycle?  This is something you should understand.  As a Woman approaches ovulation, she needs sexual fullfillment as Her hormones are pushing Her to have sex.  If your Dominant Wife is sexually reserved, knowing when Her hormones are going to push Her needs sexually will help you know how you can serve Her and bring Her pleasure.  Understanding when Her body is most aroused is an essential thing for the male submissive to understand.  Plan ahead to have the time to be giving her pleasure so She can enjoy sex when She is most likely to want it, or to want a lot of it.  When she asks you to purchase Her Feminine Napkins or Tampons do this cheerfully and with dignity and record in your Journal the date of this request to know when she next ovulates.

Sunday, January 9 -  I am a deeply spiritual Woman who has a great belief in the power of Prayer.  Take a moment and pray for your Dominant Wife and for your Marriage.  Pray for healing over past transgressions, pray for unity and intimacy, and pray for any blessing that you think would help your Dominant Wife and your Marriage.  The effective prayer of a submissive male can accomplish much.

Monday, January 10 -  Send your Wife a love note that is hand written or sent via e-mail.  A bit of creativity can make your love note more memorable.  Pleasant and loving words expressed to your Dominant Wife are sweet to the sole and healing to the heart.  

Tuesday, January 11 -  Do you show support and encourage your Wife in Her everyday life?  Do you attend functions that are important to Her?  Are you there to applaud Her when She gets recognition for Her personal accomplishments?  Do you encourage Her to build Her dreams, and do so with a smile and an affectionate kiss?  Do you compliment Her on Her inner beauty as Woman and appearance that sexually attracts you to Her.  Do you listen to Her ideas and provide Her a sounding board.  Are you Her number one fan and very best friend?  

Wednesday, January 12 - When you think of your Wife, do you think of Her as your Dominant, the Mother of the children and your Mentor.  Remind yourself several times during each day for the next few days, that your Wife is your lover and should be the focus of your attentions as you serve Her sexually and meet Her needs.  She is your sexual Dominant partner and she is to be your only sexual outlet.  Be aware of your submissive sexuality and focus your sexual and sensual attention on Her ... your Dominant lover. 

Thursday, January 13 - Go to the Gifts section of your Journal, think chocolate.  Chocolate is a wonderful aphrodisiac, discover her favorite and give her gifts of her liking, be it dark chocolate, or chocolate covered strawberries or cherries, or pixies.  The varieties of chocolate are endless.  Put 'give chocolate' at the top of your Gift list today.   

Friday, January 14 -  Sometime when you are sitting with your Dominant Wife, and are struggling with what you might say, tell Her how much you admire and love Her as you gently trace across Her wedding ring with your finger and tell Her how glad you are to serve Her and that She chose to marry you.  A good opportunity to have this moment is if you have learned the proper techniques to give her a pedicure or manicure.  Learn to serve her as a HandMaiden serves Her Queen.  Give Her a pedicure this weekend or take a class to learn how to perform give this wonderful Art of Service to the Dominant Wife or Woman in your life.  

To Give Your Dominant Wife a Pedicure the Following Items Will Be Needed:

• Plastic Tub for Her Feet to soak
• Various Implements to Clip and File Nails and Smooth the Rough Areas of Her Feet
• Rounded Glass Beads (such as those used in floral arrangements, and can be found in the craft section at stores such as Wal*Mart)
• Various Lotions and Creams
• Rubbing Alcohol
• Nail Polish (for Her)
• Hot Water
• A Plentiful Supply of Towels
  
          Place the glass beads in the tub and add hot water.  Gently roll Her feet around on the beads while massaging her lower legs and calves while Her feet soak.  Dry a foot, and trim nails and file and buff rough areas of the soles Her feet as needed.  Apply lotions and oils and gently caress and massage.  Repeat these steps with Her other foot.  Use alcohol to remove and polish and lotion residue from Her nails, and delicately paint them.  A stool to elevate Her Feet should be used as appropriate to make Her comfortable.  These steps should be performed sensually and with a ritualistic attitude.  Dress appropriately is loose fitting clothing or perform this Act of Service in the nude. 

         Your Queen should be seated in a comfortable chair with her favorite beverage and a glass of water with books and magazines beside her.  Play an erotic video for Her to watch, or some soft and soothing music.  Cater to her every request and demonstrate your desire for Her as you are beneath Her.  Tell Her at frequent intervals how blessed you are that She allows you to serve Her and bring Her this pleasure.  Schedule a time to Repeat this Act of Service on no less than a monthly basis.  

Saturday, January 15 - This weekend, light up Her sky.  Keep your attitude in check during the day and tonight she may grant you access to Her bed.  Most submissive males are too shy and embarrassed to ask for what it is they really want sexually from their Dominant Wife or Lover and are also uncomfortable about some aspect of their sex life and are afraid to discuss their submissive desires with the Dominant Woman in their life.  For the submissive male, undressing in front of a Dominant Wife can be an especially  humbling experience and although it can be embarrassing and a nerve wracking thing to do, forget the love handles and small size of your organ, especially when you are not erect.  It can be a sensuous treat for her to see you this way and can help you open up to your Dominant Wife when you are naked.  Never be concerned about how you sound or look when pleasuring your Dominant Lover.  She may drive you toward some positions that may embarass your, but what matters most is that you are serving her and giving her pleasure and trully satisfying her in a way toward helping her achieve and have multiple orgasms.

Sunday, January 16 - Are you very spiritual inside, but don't know how to, or are embarrassed to show that to your Dominant Wife?  Maybe your father was not openly spiritual, so you have no standard to go by, or maybe you've been fed the lie that it's only Women who should be "openly religious".  The truth is your Wife desperately needs to know that you are spiritual - so find a way to grow toward being a Dynamic partner and start showing it. If you are facing disappointment and personal grief in your life learn to pray.  If your Wife is facing tough times, pray for Her comfort.  Pray for Her ability to acknowledge the difficulty as well as for creative ways of adjusting to any loss or disappointment.

Monday, January 17 - It may seem a bit early, but now is the time to start thinking about Valentine's Day.  To help everyone with ideas, I will be collecting your creative gift ideas and posting them on the website.  Please email me with your suggestions and ideas for all things Valentine (cards, romantic ideas, gifts, poems, date ideas, etc.) and I will pass them on to our community of submissive males between now and Valentine's Day.  

    

'The giving of love is an education in itself' ~ Eleanor Roosevelt

Tuesday, January 18 -  Do something the way your Wife likes it done.  Whether it's putting the toilet paper roll on "backwards" or fixing something around your home, show Her that she matters by considering Her likes.

Wednesday, January 19 - Yes, Valentine's day is sneaking up on us.  Things are already in the stores, and the early shopper won't end up disappointing his Dominant Lover.  Consider buying the collar you will wear for her, or a new Toy.  The best Valentine cards and lingerie may be gone by the first of February, and the chocolate candy selection will dwindle as well. If you want to order on-line, but do it now! 

Thursday, January 20 - One of the biggest obstacles to effective communication can be too much talking and not enough listening.  Moreover, we have to listen in the right way.  The goal is not to find a weakness in what She says, the goal is to hear Her heart and mind.

Friday, January 21 - "Physical Touch" is important in your relationship.  When you embrace, hug or touch do not grope or grab at her body.  Respect her sexuality and do not reach for a breast or other area of her body without being given permission that she welcomes your touch.  Develop a gentleness to your 'touch language' when you hug your or touch your Dominant Wife.  The gentle touch of your hands on Her back, hands or belly is a bit of extra physical intimacy that you can provide while giving her sexual pleasure.  The gentleness of touch should be a precursor to any lovemaking that your Wife may decide to initiate with you.  Sex is a natural way to express your feelings and is the substructure of any healthy relationship.  Experiment to find those things that are satisfying to Her. 

Saturday, January 22 - Most Women who have tried it agree that the Female Superior position of intercourse with Her on top is the best way to get an orgasm.  If you are a less endowed submissive male you may believe this position may not work for you, or if you have erection difficulties you may be reluctant to try it.  However, if you are a male who struggles to maintain an erection, worship and praise her breasts as she is in the Dominant sexual position.  You will be visualy stimulated looking up at her in this position and as you focus on her superior sexuality it should help you maintain your erection.  If you are less endowed have your Wife place pillows under your bottom to give you the ability to give her greater penetration.

Being in the submissive sexual position, it will be your job to stay focused on keeping your erection and actively thrusting your organ to stimulate her.  You may feel unsure about what to do in the bottom position while she is positioned above you - it is your job to be an active lover; put your hands on her hips or on her bottom to help her move in rythmn with your thrusting movements.  You will need to practice some new techniques to give her pleasure.  Rather than moving up and down, resulting in your organ going in and out, slide her body along yours, head to toe and back.  This moves her clitoris against your body, giving her more stimulation and you less.  Her weight will control your motions as she directs you to move with her in unison.  As you get the hang of being in the submissive position, you can increase her pleasure by gently pulling her closer to your body to create even better stimulation for her.  Learning new techniques and practice will make you a better submissive lover.  If she is enjoying it, let her go and do not be concerned if her weight is diminishing your ability to orgasm. 

Sunday, January 23 - This Sunday, pray for the gift of sex in your relationship.  God intended for sex to be an important part of a healthy relationship between a Woman and a man.  This week pray for passion and sexual creativity in your relationship. 

Monday, January 24 - Being a Mother has never been an easy job, and it's particularly difficult in today's world.   Regardless of whether of not you live in a true Matriarchy, if your Wife is a Mother, be sure to regularly compliment her Mothering skills.

Tuesday, January 25 - If you mean it, tell your Wife that you are still happy after all these days, months or years! 

Wednesday, January 26 - A common trait among most submissive men is a chattiness and a tendency to over talk issues to the point of being overbearing and disruptive to conversation.  This is a bad habit, and is part of the oral and verbal aspect of being a submissive male.  This is for most males a hard habit to break. 

An effective approach to solving this annoying habit is to initiate an action plan on this item for every occasion of interruption; the Dominant Wife should acknowledge the interruption, require an apology and remind her submissive to work on not doing it again.

Thursday, January 27 - Accept that the Dominant Woman will handle all financial aspects of the relationship. I do all the bills, and balance the checkbook. My husband, is typical of most submissives and has never been able to keep a checkbook or good credit.  So I took it over and he does not like it but it is what we do.  Submissive men do not respond to questions when they don't know the answer or want to confront the problem. It's their way of escaping.  My husband gets an allowance and must come to me to get his money.  Some Women pay their husbands for sex and will give them an extra bonus in the morning if they have performed well the night before. 

Friday, January 28 -  Massage your Wife's feet tonight.  It is a very spiritually connecting experience.  Surprise your Wife after a long and hard day with this very unexpected gift of love and affection.  It might seem a little uncomfortable for Her initially, but gently persist and soon she will expect this indulgence and relaxation that she so deserves and desires.  This is an intimate experience and should be quietly with lots of loving smiles.

Saturday , January 29 -   If you are thinking about buying your Wife some sexy lingerie for Valentine's, you should probably do it next week before all the "good stuff" is gone. 

Sunday, January 30 - Pray that your Wife will be drawn to have regular quiet/prayer time.  She is the Family leader and needs to hear with clarity from the Lord for personal and family direction.

Monday, January 31 - "Thank you" - simple words of common courtesy.  Do you say those words to your Wife?  Do you say them enough?  Could you possibly say them too much?  The longer you have been married, the easier it is to take what she does for you for granted.  What about when you have sex, do you thank her for those small simple things she has done for you at least a thousands times?  Do you still thank her each time you have the chance?  Should you?

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