January 2005 - Volume 1, Number 2 .

Paige's Place is my semi-monthly column where I will provide you with my own Hard Hitting commentary on my views, opinions and ideas on the World we live in.  My views may intrique and are most definitely slanted towards Female-Led relationships, Female Dominance and Female Superiority.  

I intend to grab hold of you and shake you up and challenge everything you thought you believed about the world, about God, about gender orientation, about traditional Judeo-Christian roles in our society and about good and evil.  Some will scorn, others will criticize and revile, but I intend to make an impact.  Please understand that I am a very direct communicator who provides information in a straightforward manner.  I will provide my views with radiant clarity for those of you who have been walking upside down in life, seeing things the wrong way.  You will find my perspective helpful as it is intended to help make you feel right-side up again so that things start to make sense.  

If any of this is too shocking or absurd to contemplate or if these ideas bother you, I make no apologies.  Be careful though, these powerful ideas have a mind of their own and you may find they will take you off the edge of your world. 

Paige's Place can also be found within my upcoming online monthly publication Blake Spectator Magazine. 

This weeks column was written on the evening of January 27, 2005; after 10:00 pm....all is quiet as my children are now in bed and I have a moment to gather my thoughts and to write this column.

What Does It Mean?

Chicago, IL.  Earlier today I was at the University of Chicago and participating in a wonderfully lively discussion about the academic performance of men and Women in the classroom.  If you didn't know it, Women are outperforming males in every academic arena.  The bad news for the guys is that this will have an impact on our society in the next 10-15 years.  Having witnessed the variations and permutations of how human sexuality is played out in the Dynamic of relationships, I was fascinated with the discussion, which led me to writing this column; What does it really mean to be a Dominant Female or a submissive male? 

So if you dare, answer the following questions.  What does it really mean to be a Dominant Female or a submissive male?  If we acknowledge our opposite half why does it cause us to have fear?  If I am a Dominant Woman and want to acknowledge my masculinity in getting to a Female-Led lifestyle is that OK?  If I am a submissive male and desire to be in touch with my Feminity how do I discuss that with my partner?  What will my partner think? 

Excerpted from one of my favorite books, ' The DaVinci Code' by Dan Brown is the following passage; 'The ancients envisioned a world in two halves - Feminine and masculine.   Their gods and Goddesses worked to keep a balance of power.  The Yin and the Yang.  When male and Female are in balance there is harmony in the world.  When they were unbalanced, there was chaos.' 

We are currently living in a time of great chaos and great change.  Our world has been upended by religious fanaticism and our nation is crippled by soaring government deficits.  We are a country at War with forces we do not know or understand.  There is death and dieing and so much destruction that has been promulgated on us by a male oriented government.  When wil this end?  The answer is not in the bible as so many seem to think.  In the not too distant future Women accross the board will rise to the occassion and will reign and demonstrate in very real numbers and in very meaningful ways that they are capable of so much.  But in doing so they will be reaching over to be in better balance with who they are, and who they want to be.  This change in the power structure is now in the making as Women will soon bring the World into balance.       

I recently returned from Paris where Women are beginning to shake the pillars of patriarchy.  This past New Years Day, a quiet change was ushered in allowing a couple to give their newborn baby either the Mother's last name, the father's last name, or both names in the order that the parents choose.  This reform is important as it finally recognizes France's changing demographics.  Forty-five percent of the children born today in France are born out of wedlock.  This new law allows Mothers to give the child their last name without any stigma attached.  For a country steeped in tradition this change is bringing things into balance.  Equality in a country where forty percent of marriages end in divorce and forty five percent of children are born out of wedlock. 

An unheralded number of Women in France and around the World are stepping off the traditional path and reshaping our destiny.  Is this risky?  Are they giving up something?  I do not think so.  Getting to a higher plateau is taking Women to the heights of the stars in the night time sky - Venus, the Eastern Star, Ishtar, Astarte - all of them powerful Female concepts with ties to Nature and Mother Earth.  (The DaVinci Code).  In France and throughout the world, Women are taking charge and having babies without male partners.  Are these Women giving something up?  Are these Women pioneers in Female-Led?     

In my professional life I coach men and Women on life issues and I have met with literally thousands of men and an equal number of Women about these highly personal and complex issues.  The issue of male/Female balance in a man or a Woman is Dynamic and does not remain a constant over ones life.  Being a Woman who is now in her mid forties, I can speak to this issue from the vantage point of my own personal life experience.  I can assure you that being a Woman for me is at the essence of being in a Female-Led relationship. 

But being a Woman means many different things.  To my lesbian friends it has a certain meaning.  To my friends who are solidly heterosexual, being a Woman also has a distinct meaning.  Is it different for every Woman.  Is one more right than the other?  And for those Women who are just beginning to realize their destiny or are on their journey to an understanding of what it really means to becoming a Woman, it is also different as they seek to discover and learn.  Do not be afraid of this.  The fear of ones sexuality and the shame connected to how one will be perceived has held back so many individuals from living an authentic life; yet it is mostly men who have been living in this conundrum. 

 “Are you giving up something”….perhaps…but it is more likely a transition to something greater.  I certainly do not suggest that any one give up being a Woman.  Is a more masculine Woman not indeed a Woman?  One of my Icons of a Female-Led relationship lifestyle is Madonna?  Madonna is a Mother who is in her 40's.  Is she not most definitely a Dominant Woman? 

In no way am I suggesting that Women are not being Women in a Female-Led relationship.  There are many different types of Women in this world.  The concept of what being a Woman is highly complex and personal.  I ask both Women and men this very basic and direct question many times a day.  The answers are individual and highly personal.  What is being a Woman about for you?  What is being in a relationship with a Woman about for you?  I have spent years working with men and Women on these issues.  The answer lies within every Woman …and man….and that is the place where the answer lies.    

I urge both men and Women to NOT have fear in finding what the answer is for them.

Paige Harrison

Chicago, IL

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