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| Paige's Place |
March 2005 - Volume 1, Number 3 . Paige's Place is my semi-monthly column where I will provide you with my own Hard Hitting commentary on my views, opinions and ideas on the World we live in. My views may intrique and are most definitely slanted towards Female-Led relationships, Female Dominance and Female Superiority. I intend to grab hold of you and shake you up and challenge everything you thought you believed about the world, about God, about gender orientation, about traditional Judeo-Christian roles in our society and about good and evil. Some will scorn, others will criticize and revile, but I want to make an impact. Please understand that I am a very direct communicator who provides information in a straightforward manner. I will provide my views with radiant clarity for those of you who have been walking upside down in life, seeing things the wrong way. You will find my perspective helpful as it is intended to help make you feel right-side up again so that things start to make sense. If any of this is too shocking or absurd to contemplate or if these ideas bother you, I make no apologies. Be careful though, these powerful ideas have a mind of their own and you may find they will take you off the edge of your world. Paige's Place can also be found within my upcoming online monthly publication Blake Spectator Magazine.
The Intrique of a Female-Led Relationship
The intrique of a Female-Led relationship is highly sexual for males. What drives this desire for such a primal bond? What pulls this bunny out of the hat? It would be the exception rather than the norm if this were not the case, but the Female Led connection is powerful ~ just as a baby is attached to a mothers breast so too does the male become attached to the Female. The Sensual Place In my hands his heart melts, his knees collapse as I stand above looking down at him, head lowered, eyes close, lips pursed, ears attune. Silence. The skin awakens, the back arches, the ass juts, insides open and turn outward, the erection is apparent, the cock glistens, the asshole moistens, breathing deepens. His resistance loosens, old doors open, consciousness lightens, My voice invites his soul to surrender and travel the journey, In search of the treasures,
Most males and couples need help with their sexuality. How does one get to this place of sensuality, of sexual expression? I see sexual frustration day in and day out in the work that I do. Sexuality is a broad part of who we are. Neglecting to express what it is we want or who we really are leaves a big hole in one's life. We live in a sexual culture; from Madison Avenue to Hollywood ~ yet few of us take the time to develop the skills to cultivate a sense of intimacy with our partners. Intimacy is all about communicating desires and taking the time to learning our interests and needs. Once they are known and understood they can be explored. This is the same whether we are discussing the male or the Female inner sexuality and sensuality. I currently have a variety of books on my desk about human sexuality; there is absolutely nothing more important in establishing a Female-Led relationship than learning the intimate behavior needs of your partner and then gradually retooling him to satisfy your need for sexual satisfaction. Women need sex more than they sometimes are willing to admit. Perhaps it is the 'good girl' syndrome in all of us that keeps us from experiencing what lies within our pelvis. The vulva is the powerhouse area for all sexual activity and as Women we need communication and connectivity with this area of our bodies. Often it is touch communication that takes us to a prelude to sex, so the idea of a FemDom or Female Superior approach to sex where you discuss his sexual needs in an open and non threatening way while he is at your power center can be fun to implement with your beloved in the privacy of your bedroom. Many Female Superior sexual activities help break down the male ego and other barriers which prevent him from experiencing the sexual experience he so wants and needs. Most men do not realize this about themselves. Instead they think they can only find this if they seek out something that they believe is available only through others. I do not beleve it is right to go looking for this outside of a committed relationship. But I can understand the strong urges that pull the male in these directions. The intimate things a Woman can perform within the act of lovemaking can become such an erotic and passionate experience that they become indelibly etched in the mind of the male. These experiences once established will keep the male subservient and ultimately point to a recognition of the Superiority and Power of the Female. Do you fear giving your male a phallic experience or teaching him how to worship you properly, or learning how to properly milk his semen, or do you desire the establishment of a domestic discipline approach to your relationship? Each of these activities can establish the Female Led lifestyle and develop within your relationship the incredible bond which will help drive your male to a base of submission. This activites will serve you well as he is frequently reminded of how he must meet your desires. For many males, once their Female partner performs certain erotic or sexual activities, they are helplessly entangled in a space and a place that is so powerful that they are forever trapped. And remember, ladies that once the male is put in this place the overall experience of what can happen next has the potential to take you both to a very spiritual dimension of sex and a more meaningful and satisfying relationship. The male who has been pushed to the edge sexually and learns how to satisfy a woman will ultimately be happier as a human being. I know that some of the practices subscribed in a FemDom or Female Led relationship can be shocking to perform and intimidate some Women. Contrary to popular view, the sexual practice of a Woman wearing a phallus, is not about pornographic sexuality but IS about meeting the needs of your partner at a very base human level and making the connection of your superiority in a uniquely loving and affectionate way. Certainly know your limitations and do not ever do anything that you are not sexually comfortable with. This is essential, but also do not be afraid to confront the issues of his sexuality in an open and forthright manner. Challenge him. Do not be afraid. These types of sexual experiences can transform your relationship into something more than what it otherwise might have been or could be. Sexual communication is at the core of a Female-Led relationship and is key to getting to a truly intimate, passionate and erotic relationship. This is all about pleasure, however we find it. We may find it alone, we may find it with a man, a woman, or both. A Dominant Woman never fakes orgasm, for a couple of reasons. One, faking orgasm is something we do (I’ve done it too) to placate or pander to men, often because we don’t know any better. Dominant Women learn not to do that. Two: Dominant women don’t need to fake orgasm: either they teach their partners how to do it properly, or they do it themselves. They revel in their own pleasure -- in their body’s sexuality. If they don’t want to have an orgasm, they don’t. Tell your male, “touch me this way” or “don’t touch me at all.” Men who love women genuinely want them to have pleasure -- not purely out of ego based behavior, but because they love you. Your pleasure is good for your partner. The male wants to learn how to please you. He’s actually desperate for it. Don’t lie to him. Move out of the zone of fear and into the zone of possibilities. Uncovering your real desires can be terrifing, but it also can set you free. There is in love, a change in the rules. To be in touch with our desires makes something new possible. It can be scary, but is it not more scary to remain who we are instead of who we want to be? Paige Harrison .
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